Are you worried about your negative aspects of personality, such as jealousy? Do you feel you quickly get jealous whenever you hear good news for someone? Do you feel the rising trait of jealousy in you is hindering you from living your best life possible? If yes, then don’t worry – there is a solution to everything.
The first thing to understand about jealousy is to acknowledge that it is not an impulsive act; instead, it is a learned behavior that has been deeply wired in the brain – much like coding for a typical software. In that sense, the whole idea behind getting rid of jealousy is the aim to reprogram the brain and learn new, optimistic behaviors so they shut the inner negative voices in our head.
However, there is a common belief that doing such rewiring of the mind is close to impossible due to certain notions – “I am too old to learn something new,” “My brain is too stubborn to rewire itself,” or “I do not think I am capable enough to learn new behaviors.” Second thoughts like these are nothing but a part of our inner negativity that hampers us to have a new insight for ourselves. Overcoming such patterns is necessary to make sure that we are on the right path when it comes to learning new behaviors and becoming a better version of ourselves.
Now, the question arises, how to actually work to solve this jealousy problem? Let’s see how.
See the Good in Every New Person you Meet
According to the Vedic scriptures, it is said that whenever you meet a new person and try to be friends with them, your first and foremost instinct should be to find something positive about that person. It can be anything about their physical appearance like their eyes, hair, clothes, or shoes, etc.
Even better, it can be anything regarding their personality and how do they make you feel. It should take you less than a minute to configure that positive aspect of the person. As you begin doing so in practice, become faster in your ways and challenge yourself to find the positive aspect in 15 to 20 seconds to the most.
The Science Behind it
The idea behind is that whenever we try being optimistic about a person, most often, we tend to only think positively about that person. This goes otherwise in usual practice as our first attempt whenever we meet a new person is to find fault in them. When such a thing happens, a trail of negative points is natural to follow that leads to jealousy.
So, when you see something positive in a person, you are closing doors to that inner competitive atmosphere, you might otherwise build when meeting an individual for the first time. This way, you are better able to acknowledge the positive traits in a person and make an overall better picture in your mind about that person.
Instead of seeing them as an outsider who has to be in your competition, you are more likely to see them as a friend for whom you want good things to happen. Ultimately, you will see that the negative clouds of jealousy are no more there and you feel much fulfilled and complete while you are around them.
Why Do We Need to Rewire our Minds?
The mind has no typical age, nor does it have any limits to learning new things. This gives us unlimited power to reprogram the brain in whatever form we like. The key is to tackle the problems our brain is creating on its own in a caring, pampering way. No one should go too hard on their brains, and forcing ourselves into doing something we don’t feel peace with would only do more harm than good. So, the essential elements we need to keep in our minds while rewiring our brains is to have an open window.
Learn to justify the new behaviors and acts with logic and with uncompromised integrity. As we tend to hold a more precise vision that is encompassing our inner values, we tend to shift towards new patterns more easily than otherwise. Learning new and positive behaviors like these can dynamically solve our negative behaviors, such as jealousy.